Clear the fear of reaching out

Just this morning I was talking to my friend and colleague, Craig Homonnay in Adelaide, Australia on facebook. We’ve become acquainted via Matt Sison’s yahoo forum over a few years and just a couple of months ago, I messaged him on facebook to do a bit of scouting for my visit to Australia. As a result of our communication I’ve started to really get to know what makes him tick and what his work is all about. In return, I think he’s getting to know me too and how I work. The technology the world has at the moment is amazing! We really do belong to a global village. And what a responsibility comes with the raising of consciousness that all these growing ‘synaptic links’ are creating around planet Gaia!

Giving others a platform

I’ve been reaching out to therapists like this in the UK and around the world over several years now seeking interesting souls to share their work on my teleseminar service, to promote their work and in so doing promote mine. I’ve been looking for people who share a common starting point as me, but who may manifest that gift in a different way. So for example, my nutritionist has a similar outlook to mine, and to achieve her results she uses her insight into people coupled with her knowledge about food and nutritional values. However, reaching out to ask people to promote me is another question.

The Fear of Reaching out

It’s only as I continue with this journey to get  my Clear the Fear workshops known  and launched in Australia that I realise how much fear has stopped me asking for what I need in my business. In fact, I’ve probably not even realised what I need, relying more on my own resourcefulness than daring to ask others to help. Now I’m not talking about hiring people to help me with the technical challenges of running my business: the website, the design, the hosting.  I’m very good at knowing what I need, what I want it to look like, and how to hire people to help me. I’m talking about the real collaboration with my colleagues to create something greater than either of us might be able to create on our own.

My biggest block

I think my biggest block there has been admitting that I might need their help. That I’m not all strong and untouchable in my shiny ivory tower. But more than that, there’s been a fear of not wanting to dilute my approach, or my perspective by inviting other people to comment or contribute to my work.  And if I don’t want to allow that to happen and trust myself to exercise discernment, embracing elements that enhance and dismissing those that don’t, then my work lacks a certain vibrancy and responsiveness to those it serves.

The benefit in understanding the block

Reaching out

Reaching out

It’s a block I’ve really slowly been addressing for a few years but it’s been brought into sharp focus with my trip to Australia. I have had to really make myself vulnerable and ask for help. Help from people who I may otherwise never have asked for help from. From people who work differently but whose motivation is the same: to spread their little bit of magic in their way in their part of the world. And in daring to ask them, I realise our common goals and ambitions. It’s a humbling experience.

Shift of perspective

I find in having to ask for help, I’m looking for our common ground and not our differences, for concepts that we share, and not the ideas that divide us.  It’s bringing out such a warm feeling of common humanity in me as I dare to ask for what I need to make my work known and successful in Australia.

How am I doing it?

Necessity is the mother of invention, as they say. I have committed. I have stepped through a portal and said to myself, right. Let’s just keep open. Let’s keep asking. And you know what I’ve discovered? Most people want to help if they feel you are coming from a genuine open hearted space.

The result?

People are stepping forward and offering me help and support from Sydney and Melbourne.  Some of the professional organisations are publishing my articles, helping me find an audience, offering to put me in contact with friends and colleagues, and basically to support me any which way they can.

And I need more help

I still need a heap of stuff to get my work known down under. I’m still looking for a venue in Sydney to host my 2 day workshop and some of the following:

  • Anyone working in local or national publications who might want to interview me: from schizophrenic to transpersonal therapist
  • Local radio stations with a personal development flavour
  • Local interest groups or charities
  • Therapy organisations and groups
  • Room Hire in Sydney

Dare I ask anyone for this? Can you help? This is how I’m working to clear the fear of asking. Just ask. Confront it. And just wait and see what turns up. So if you can help, comment below or message me direct by clicking here.

 

 

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