Standing in St Paul’s cathedral on Elizabeth street, Melbourne, I mused again, for the umpteenth time since my arrival 2 weeks before in Australia, about all the names of the fallen listed on imposing brass plaques mounted on aged teak that lined the walkways through the church and other public places, including even the subway system, a curious place, I thought, to place a monument to the fallen. One plaque on the walkway to my left announced the birth and death of an obviously much loved organ player who had made the many thousands of miles from England to Australia at a time when voyages of 5 weeks duration were the only feasible ways of covering a journey of such epic proportions. Continue readingby
I’ve been in a conflicted place for a number of years around money. I’ve still not fully reconciled the two extremes that nestle up against each other in my psyche. I’m torn between opting out of the money system and its tyranny and enslavement or actually using money to create everything I want to achieve, at work and personally, in my lifetime. And those two polar opposites sit uncomfortably side by side – each finding their own scorn and disdain for the opposite. Continue readingby
Just this morning I was talking to my friend and colleague, Craig Homonnay in Adelaide, Australia on facebook. We’ve become acquainted via Matt Sison’s yahoo forum over a few years and just a couple of months ago, I messaged him on facebook to do a bit of scouting for my visit to Australia. As a result of our communication I’ve started to really get to know what makes him tick and what his work is all about. In return, I think he’s getting to know me too and how I work. The technology the world has at the moment is amazing! We really do belong to a global village. And what a responsibility comes with the raising of consciousness that all these growing ‘synaptic links’ are creating around planet Gaia!
Giving others a platform
I’ve been reaching out to therapists like this in the UK and around the world over several years now seeking interesting souls to share their work on my teleseminar service, to promote their work and in so doing promote mine. I’ve been looking for people who share a common starting point as me, but who may manifest that gift in a different way. So for example, my nutritionist has a similar outlook to mine, and to achieve her results she uses her insight into people coupled with her knowledge about food and nutritional values. However, reaching out to ask people to promote me is another question.
The Fear of Reaching out
It’s only as I continue with this journey to get my Clear the Fear workshops known and launched in Australia that I realise how much fear has stopped me asking for what I need in my business. In fact, I’ve probably not even realised what I need, relying more on my own resourcefulness than daring to ask others to help. Now I’m not talking about hiring people to help me with the technical challenges of running my business: the website, the design, the hosting. I’m very good at knowing what I need, what I want it to look like, and how to hire people to help me. I’m talking about the real collaboration with my colleagues to create something greater than either of us might be able to create on our own.
My biggest block
I think my biggest block there has been admitting that I might need their help. That I’m not all strong and untouchable in my shiny ivory tower. But more than that, there’s been a fear of not wanting to dilute my approach, or my perspective by inviting other people to comment or contribute to my work. And if I don’t want to allow that to happen and trust myself to exercise discernment, embracing elements that enhance and dismissing those that don’t, then my work lacks a certain vibrancy and responsiveness to those it serves.
The benefit in understanding the block
It’s a block I’ve really slowly been addressing for a few years but it’s been brought into sharp focus with my trip to Australia. I have had to really make myself vulnerable and ask for help. Help from people who I may otherwise never have asked for help from. From people who work differently but whose motivation is the same: to spread their little bit of magic in their way in their part of the world. And in daring to ask them, I realise our common goals and ambitions. It’s a humbling experience.
Shift of perspective
I find in having to ask for help, I’m looking for our common ground and not our differences, for concepts that we share, and not the ideas that divide us. It’s bringing out such a warm feeling of common humanity in me as I dare to ask for what I need to make my work known and successful in Australia.
How am I doing it?
Necessity is the mother of invention, as they say. I have committed. I have stepped through a portal and said to myself, right. Let’s just keep open. Let’s keep asking. And you know what I’ve discovered? Most people want to help if they feel you are coming from a genuine open hearted space.
People are stepping forward and offering me help and support from Sydney and Melbourne. Some of the professional organisations are publishing my articles, helping me find an audience, offering to put me in contact with friends and colleagues, and basically to support me any which way they can.
And I need more help
I still need a heap of stuff to get my work known down under. I’m still looking for a venue in Sydney to host my 2 day workshop and some of the following:
- Anyone working in local or national publications who might want to interview me: from schizophrenic to transpersonal therapist
- Local radio stations with a personal development flavour
- Local interest groups or charities
- Therapy organisations and groups
- Room Hire in Sydney
Dare I ask anyone for this? Can you help? This is how I’m working to clear the fear of asking. Just ask. Confront it. And just wait and see what turns up. So if you can help, comment below or message me direct by clicking here.
I’d always said I wanted to travel, to learn from some of the masters around the world, metabolise and process their teachings and bring them all together in a powerful mastery of personal transformation so that I could inspire others to do the same. I dreamed of it. I could taste it and see it. And now all my excuses not to do it have fallen away! My daughter is nearly independent, I am officially partner free, my work has taken the most inspired turn in the last year as I have realised my growing freedom to be me through my continued thirst for personal development and growth. And my thanks to Kimberley Lovell, Orianne Corman, and Nick Williams for their inspired support and insights which have helped me on my own path.
Yikes! Hellfire. So let me just take stock. So you mean, Jen, now’s the time? Yes indeedy. Now’s the time. No more hiding out, sitting behind my computer, waiting for people to come to me. No more waiting for the right time. The right time IS now.
So my first step was to apply to a number of international therapy organisations to offer a talk about my landmark work about my Clear the Fear workshops. When I’d sifted through what came back from those initial applications, a clear opportunity presented itself to visit Australia. Australia! Ok. So first things first. If I presented at the Australian Hypnotherapy Association’s 65th Annual Conference, who was going to pay what? Flights, Accommodation, Conference fees, etc.
I rapidly realised that the AHA were paying for nothing except my conference fees for one day. One day! No speaker fee. No accommodation provision. No travel allowance. So it had to be completely self funded if I wanted to take up this opportunity. Naturally, I dithered. And I dallied around a bit, telling myself I could talk at a conference far nearer to home if I wanted to. In fact I let it drift for a good few weeks before I decided to commit to the experience.
Committing to the experience
And even in committing, I have found that that has only just started the ball rolling. The committing has simply provided a doorway, a portal that I now need to step through to realise how else the commitment to the experience will cause me to grow and what it will bring with it. And I’m fearful. Honestly. It’s both wondrous and terrifying. You’d think I was going to my own death the way at times it feels. To have to trust the process and allow myself to ‘cross over’ into the world of spontaneity, networking and opening up to possibility is scary. I have to learn to go with the flow, stop trying to control and start really relating to people who are there to help me, if I am too.
And then, at the moment I feel the fear, and in particular in my stomach, I’m learning to take note of it. I allow it to stop me in my tracks. I look at it and ask myself just what it’s trying to tell me? what will it do to me? is there any reason I should trust it?…And when it realises it’s been seen, my whole autonomic nervous system settles down. I reach a place of calm and I realise it’s just fear. It’s just fear born of thoughts that my success depends on reaching out to people, trusting and allowing others to help me.
For a supposedly strong, independent woman that’s a scary prospect. And I am strong. In fact, strength is not the absence of weakness. It is the ability to embrace your weakness and still keep true to your dreams, allowing your heart to carry you through. At least that’s what it feels like for me right now. And I know I’m going to have to catch my fears regularly and go through this process many times as I let go of the fear and embrace the adventure.
If you can help me find accommodation, get room hire sorted, or help me on my journey I’d love to hear from you. If you would love to take part in my workshop events where I take you on a journey into your own psyche and your own heart so you can spy your own fears and transform them, fill in the sign up box above and let me keep in touch with you.by
I’ve been banging on for years about therapists doing their personal work, clearing their fear and modelling authenticity. And the only reason I’ve developed such a passion for it is because when I first started out training my colleagues, I naively thought everyone had had THEIR personal epiphany like I had. When I realised that wasn’t the case, I saw how I could serve my own community by training and modelling authenticity in the therapy room. I wanted inspire a that therapy could be much more incisive and effective, promoting faster and more profound healing in our clients and educating and nurturing resourcefulness and independence.
I discovered from those early days of my practice that the world of therapy, and in fact the whole world, has however been overtaken by superficialism and sound bites, by technique-ing and protocols, by procedures and ‘professionalism’, by masks and bluster, by intellectualism and academia, till the near life has been drained out of any authentic and creative inspiration that may arise from making profound relationships with colleagues, clients and customers. And this is the case, not just as therapists, but in many other areas of work. The benefit? The creation of meaningful connection, authentic business relationships and more than just financial wealth. The time is so right for this maturation of the human condition, this blossoming and valuing of the more subtle yet deeply wholesome aspect of our human-ness. And as therapists we hold the most tremendous responsibility to be clearing our fears, walking our talk and becoming beacons of personal transformation.
What does it take to wake up?
As a Transpersonal Therapist, Intuitive Coach and Personal Development Mentor, I wondered why more people weren’t clamouring to do their deep personal work, to demonstrate in their energy their clarity of perspective and wisdom; to embrace the challenging journey to our own awakening, and basically, to become leaders of authenticity.
And one of the answers I received to my own enquiry was that, so infected are we by the world of media and superficialism, that many of us aren’t even aware of what it is that is blocking our lives and causing us to stay small, get burnout, and to not share our gifts with the world. And if that’s the case, how are we ever going to become the leaders that others so desperately need – in word AND in deed?
My Personal History of Clearing Fears
Many years ago when I was 23 I was diagnosed Schizophrenic. I recovered and never even considered it anything remarkable. At age 29, I shed another skin and confronted and transformed my fear. 3 years later I had a near death experience at the birth of my daughter and struggled with deep fears. And then 6 years later, around the age of 38 another layer of fear fell away as I embarked on perhaps the most important part of my profound journey home to who I really am.
Now I find myself again at the beginning of something new and scary: my journeying to different parts of the world with my work. I was fine being a big fish in a relatively small pond. But now I have to allow myself to be seen, sharing my story, by larger numbers of people, in different cultures, with differing expectations and unique journeys of their own. My poor wounded ego asks me again, whether I have anything to really show anyone that they couldn’t find for themselves.
We are here to guide and lead each other
And then I’m invited to reflect on all the wonderful mentors and beautiful souls who have shared their inspiration and journey with me and allowed me to step up in my life and work. And I realise that this work I do isn’t mine. It’s just something I was born to do. It’s simply the spiritual baton I’m passing on to those who are ready to grab it and run. In fact, it’s not work at all. It’s a sheer pleasure.
Embracing the next part of the journey
I’ll be on the biggest journey of my life so far in September: speaking at the Australian Hypnotherapy Association’s 65th Annual Conference and taking my Clear the Fear workshops on walkabout to Sydney and Melbourne where I am barely known but already am so supported by all the wonderful international friendships I have made over the years through forums and social media. And I thought it was apt for me to share my journey of clearing my own fears so that I can deliver my best work yet down under.
If you’re an interested Aussie, I’d love to keep in touch with you. Just enter your details in the box above and I’ll keep you posted on what’s on and where. Or you can also find me on facebook on http:/www.facebook.com/clearthefear or on my website http://theopenmindtherapist.com/clear-the-fear-australia/ where you’ll discover more about the workshops themselves.by
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